We live in a day and age where social media is one of the biggest things in our lives. I mean, think about it... what would people today do without Facebook, Twitter, etc? We'd be lost, right?
I'll admit, I used to be one of those people that posted ALL OF THE TIME on facebook. Whether it was updates on life, pictures, feelings...anything. Yes, I was one of those people. Until... a status that I posted was taken the wrong way. And that, my friends, was the start of my personal drama with facebook. I mean, seriously? Was that real life? Since that fateful day in January, I was urged by several people, including Jesse, to stop posting so much on facebook...in fear that people would continue to take my posts and comments the wrong way. Eventually, I took the advice and now I carefully watch everything that I post... including deleting a couple people along the way!
Which brings me to my next point. Lately, all I have seen on the wonderful world of facebook is people criticizing, bragging, and complaining. And I've seen posts that were perhaps geared towards me... in a way to be spiteful or mean (though I will never honestly know if they were towards me, but hey, I'm not an idiot either!). And here is what I have to say about that. :)
First of all, If you have a problem with me, the way I raise my child, or with my family... have the courage to say it to my face. I have not created an environment that makes it difficult for anyone to have a relationship with my son. As far as Jesse and I are concerned, he has everyone that he needs in his life. I have never stopped anyone from having a relationship with my son. I just figure that if someone wanted that relationship, they would make a HUGE effort to do so. I don't and won't go out of my way to personally make you feel better about your role in my child's life. In order for ANYONE to have a relationship with my son, they must have a good standing relationship with me, his MOTHER! Yes, that's right... a relationship with me is necessary, and I don't care what anyone says to the contrary...it's the truth. Plain and Simple.
I've gone out of my way to try to make things right the best that I could. It is not my fault if someone won't accept that or won't make the effort back. I have kept my mouth shut to most people, except those that I talk to most and trust, and haven't said anything "publicly" about anyone. I've bitten my tongue more than once at actions that I felt were wrong. I have sat by while people have literally tried to put me down as a person, wife, and mother. I've watched as several have tried to ruin my marriage and family. I witnessed people saying that they could raise my child better than I can. I was told that I was suffering from depression from someone who is not a doctor...(when in fact, it was just a big dose of... I'm so over this and so over you!) I have seen friendships that I loved be broken by one person's personal opinion of me. I've sat by while being talked about how I don't belong in a family. I have been blamed by children for something that I don't control. I have apologized to people for things that NEVER included them. And this is what I have learned through all of it. I am a wonderful wife and mother. I have a wonderful husband that loves me. A beautiful, amazing boy that adores his Mommy. I have friends that I would consider family and some family that I would consider friends. I've learned to never say anything to someone who can't keep their mouth shut. And most of all, I've learned that revenge is not mine, though sometimes I wish it was, but revenge is the Lord's.
So, I don't sit around and cry about anyone not having a relationship with my child. Jesse and I are very happy and content with the people that are in our lives. We've learned who our true friends are and can depend on them more than we can depend on some family members. We no longer listen to the criticism of our life or marriage because we know that it is part of a hidden agenda...since you think that he would be better off without me. Well, my friend, he has made his choice. He chose his Family... Gabe and I. So please, keep your non-chalant remarks towards me off of facebook. Everyone already knows what you think about me...there is no need to flaunt it to everyone on the internet. If badmouthing me as a wife and mother helps you get through the day, then please, be my guest. Whatever helps you to feel better about yourself. Just one question... Was it worth it?
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